Oh my little sweetie Lulu. This girl is my happiness and my greatest challenge all at once. I was just going through old pictures remembering how fun she has been. She spent the night at my parents last night and me and Cody didn't know what to do without her! We missed her so much and then she gets home and I am ready to tear my hair out again! She can be such a diva and just WILL NOT accept "no." It's her way or no way at all which I think is typical of most kids this age but I don't know how to deal with it. I've tried bribery, rewarding, punishing, ignoring, it doesn't matter what our reaction is, she still screams and cries. We had an incident tonight. She didn't eat her dinner and when Cody was putting her to bed, she came out and told me she was hungry so Cody made her a piece of toast. She took it back to her bed and started eating it in her sheets so Cody told her to come back in the kitchen. You would've thought her arm got ripped off for how loud she screamed. I told her if she acts like that then its just straight to bed and no more toast. She kept screaming so Cody threw her toast away. Had it been me, I would've needed a few minutes to cool off but he took her into her room and laid with her to calm her down. I'm grateful he can pull it together so quick. I can't. But I know she was tired and wasn't thinking real straight but honestly, stuff like this happens all the time lately! The parenting books say they throw these fits because the parents have given in too often and the kids know it works. But I really don't give in! I don't know how to fix this. After it all settled down, I went in and cuddled her while she was sleeping. Such an angel when she is sleeping. :) I adore this little girl and she really is well-behaved, smart, talented, funny, loving, so many wonderful things but how do I deal with this not accepting "no" phase. Help?
posted by jen @ 10:03 PM
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Oh Jen...first off, those pictures of her are SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO adorable. I love that little face and those chubbie legs. I feel like we are constantly having this battle with C. We threaten no books (for bedtime) all the time and then we usually read them anyway because we really like to read with her. Have you tried a reward chart that she can put a sticker on when you catch her "doing the right thing the first time." I can't wait to read what other people say for advice. See you in May.
Jen those are pictures are so gorgeous! We are going through that phase as well. The only thing that has worked (and its only just started after three months) is we count. She knows that when I get to three she has to be doing what I've asked or I "help" her follow my direction and if she is still crying or yelling after being told no and I've counted to three she is wrapped up (pretty much swaddled) and put on her bed until she stops crying. Good luck! Let me know if you find anything else that works.
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